Here comes the Boom...

Ok, before I go off on my rant I want to take a moment and be happy. Business is doing really well right now, last month was a scary month but we did it and this month has been a good month. A good month following a scary month evens out to.. Well it's not the end of the month yet so I can't tell you yet, but I'm remaining positive. (Heck, I have FREE radio time this week how can I not be positive?!?) ;) I have a GREAT team of more than qualified people that I am happy to cheer on and support and am forever grateful for their cheering on.

Onto the matter that has been eating away at me.

BABIES ARE NOT BAND-AIDS!!!!!

"Oh, I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me.."

"She has this really great opportunity, but she'll have to leave for a year..."

"We really don't get along anymore, but I want my kids to have the same parents.."

"He hits me, but I just know he'll change.."

"We've been fighting this past year, but we both agreed to stop last month..."

Seriously. Does ANY of those situations sound like throwing in crazy, awful hormones for 9+ months and then a completely dependent (and sleep depriving) child into the mix will make it BETTER?!?! What the heck are you smoking?!?

It makes me mad to see so many people trying to fix their relationships by spawning. I love children, I think they are magical, beautiful gifts, but that doesn't change the fact that being a parent is HARD WORK. You have a migraine? Too bad you still have to feed and clothe and take care of your kiddo. Your friends invite you to the bar while your SO is working? Guess what, you're not going.

Most of the people that I talk to that come up with this "genius" plan end up miserable and alone or miserable and feel stuck in a completely avoidable situation... All you have to do is not jump into bed with someone you #1 don't know (gasp!!!), #2 don't trust, and #3 don't love.

If your relationship has any chance of survival, both parties have to want it to, and adding a 18+ year commitment is a pretty stupid way to try to make things better, and from what I've seen is just guaranteed to make things worse.

But hey what do I know? I'm just one gal that have had people talk out their problems to for the last 4 years... Somethings can be figured out without a Doctorate.. ;)

I now return you to your regularly scheduled light-heartedness.

Don't make me rant at you again.